Welcome to my site.
My name is Dr. Amar Dhall.
I come to the practice of psychotherapy after teaching law at university for almost a decade. During that time I realised that the most meaningful way to approach conflict is from a position of self-responsibility (I speak more about that in the section below).
I was born between cultures, having parents from who immigrated to Australia, themselves from different non-English speaking cultures.
I have spent my life bringing a rigorous approach to areas of being that are not easy know with the same certainty of scientific observation.
I am an intern process-oriented psychotherapist and holistic counsellor who holds a Ph.D. which looked at the intersection of holistic quantum mechanics and law.
I have studied and practiced shamanism for over a decade, notably studying with the Foundation for Shamanic Studies (Asia), spent with indigenous elders and teachers in Australia and the US, as well as exploring Andean shamanic practice in the Sacred Valley in Peru.
I have been working with the facilitation of men’s work with Mankind Project since 2014 and have attended and facilitated men’s circles in Australia, the USA and Thailand.
I study and practice Kashmiri-Shaivism (Trika Shaivism to be more precise), which is a form of tantric yoga with Agama Yoga in both Thailand and India.
I have also presented internationally on shamanism and law as well as been published internationally on the intersection of quantum mechanics, shamanism and law. I have also published internationally in field of process-oriented psychology.
I have co-facilitated workshops on a number of different topics (mostly linked with the areas of expertise above).
WHY DO I DO WHAT I DO?
One significant lever for me doing-what-I-do was the dawning awareness of the pressure I felt between who other people wanted me to be and my own felt sense of my essence. This fundamental conflict led me to the realisation that when I choose to take responsibility for my experience of life, then all conflict and adversity becomes an opportunity to heal and grow.
My life-long exploration of conflict led me to learning the value of self-responsibility. Whilst it was post-Jungian psychotherapy was the tool that brought about this insight, my journey to this place of understanding had a number of steps, each with their own lessons. The place of beginning was as a child and teenager in the suppression of my inner voice in order to shape myself to fit my family. This suppression was brought about from a deeply held fear about the world; that people are dishonest and looking to take advantage wherever it could be found. During my time in this stage I had a fearsome temper.
The first step was learning to become articulate with my anger and confront my fear. With the understanding I held at that time, I felt that the most efficient way I could confront these parts of myself was to learn a combat sport, and so I began to box. This was a brutal exploration of myself in which I learned about ‘winning’ and ‘losing’, and came to understand the blurred lines between these two seemingly opposite polarities.
My next step was choosing to read law. Much like boxing, in legal disputes there are ‘winners’ and ‘losers’. The primary difference between the two is that there is no physical violence involved in the courtroom, but rather there is clash of intellects.
I took my third step last year, when I became a trained mediator because I realised that whilst it feels good to ‘win’ a conflict, I was dissatisfied with the concept that conflict is resolved with a ‘winner’ and ‘loser’. Moreover, through my engagement with boxing I came to understand that sometimes someone who ‘wins’ actually loses and vice versa. Mediation is at essence collaborative rather than combative, and for this reason side-steps the paradigm of ‘winners’ and ‘losers’.
My final step into the present (i.e. the time in which I write this) was when I realised that deeper than a collaborative approach to conflict is self-responsibility. From a place of self-responsibility conflict is completely reframed, as I realise that I am the creator of my lived experience. This realisation struck me so deeply that I chose not practice law, even though I was in the top couple of lawyers in my year group and received attractive offers to practice, rather, a post-Jungian psychotherapeutic practice and legally-informed mediation practice with an emphasis on personal responsibility is much better aligned to my values.
So what began with suppression of my inner voice as a child and teen, led me into an exploration of physical conflict in my mid-twenties, then into excellence in law and mediation and finally to post-Jungian psychotherapy – from physical violence, into adversarial conflict with a ‘winner’ and ‘loser’, then to collaboration and finally to self-responsibility.
An ever increasing sense of inner spaciousness has followed in-step with my journey through those choices and led me to a sense of fulfilment which has rippled through-out my life. This spaciousness expresses itself in better relationships, greater joy, more laughter and an ability to weather the ups and downs of life with an ease and grace that I simply didn’t have when I was younger. I am also able to be more present and available to my family, friends and even to each moment.
As I enter the middle stage of life I feel like I am finally learning how to ‘drive’ the body I inhabit. Over the last few years I have ‘worked’ with men and women and found joy in empowering others, which I could do only once I had learned to empower myself.
WHATS MY CRED?
Walking my talk
2008 - 2015
DEAN'S AWARD FOR INNOVATION AND EXCELLENCE IN EDUCATION (UNIVERSITY OF CANBERRA)
PROCESS-ORIENTED PSYCHOLOGY AND HOLISTIC COUNSELLING
July 2016 - December 2018
2003 - 2007
CERTIFICATE IV TRAINING AND ASSESSMENT